When anger is involved, there are obvious relationship costs.  People who don’t manage their anger in safe, constructive ways usually have problems making and keeping friends, and their dating, marriage, and family relationships tend to be rocky and unstable.

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A person who manages his or her anger avoids black and white thinking (e.g., “never” and “always” statements), uses effective communication skills to share feelings and needs, checks for possible compromises, and assesses what is at stake when choosing to stay angry or handle the anger. Managing one’s anger constructively results in an increased energy level, effective communication skills, strengthened relationships, improved physical and mental health, and augmented self-esteem.

However, when a person experiencing anger does not manage it appropriately, he or she suffers, and so do relationships with coworkers, supervisors, and customers. In fact, angry people tend to be more isolated and less fulfilled in all of their relationships.  And if anger is managed incorrectly, it can exact a severe toll on physical health.  People who consistently deal with anger in unhealthy ways tend to get angry more often and stay angry longer than the general population.

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Anger is an emotional experience triggered by an external event or internal misrepresentation.  In terms of behavior, anger-based aggression is goal-directed, and its achievement is intimidation.

When the individual experiencing anger lacks a functional perspective of impression management, frustration tolerance, impulse control, and entitlement, any external event can be interpreted irrationally as a “personal attack.”  In response, the experiencer seeks to intimidate or avoid the “source” of conflict, utilizing the approaches with which he or she is most familiar such as aggression, power of control, and substance abuse.

Once this cycle is identified, however, the person who experiences anger can learn alternative perspectives that can be employed to create opportunities to apply functional conflict and coping skills. Individuals and families experiencing problems with anger may share many of the same dynamics with families in which domestic violence occurs.

Entitlement is a matter of perspective which involves what a person thinks of himself or herself vis-à-vis self-importance to others: It incorporates notions of centrality, superiority, and deservedness. An inflated sense of entitlement leads to irrational expectations of self-concept and is played out upon others through coercion of power and control.

Act now, before it’s too late

Conflict experienced at work, on the road, in school, or at home play out in the personal life of the person experiencing anger. Anger can manifest itself as abuse against one’s partner, parents, or children.  It may take the form of verbal and mental abuse, neglect, power, and control, or it may be processed in the domain of physical violence.  People are often harmed through resultant acts of intimidation.

When facing conflict an individual’s wants and needs for competence are subjected to challenge. Depending on the person’s threshold of self-security a perspective of entitlement may be irrationally justified in order to maintain emotional competence.  Threats to emotional competence trigger desperation and forced control.

Clients in the Emotional Competence Programs of MyDiscover Inc. gain the awareness necessary for confronting irrational perspectives of entitlement.  By enrolling now, you too will immediately begin to gain the skills to identify the expectations that trigger your intolerance toward perceived conflict.  This will open the path for you to explore alternative perspectives and seek opportunities to practice applying your gained functional conflict and coping skills.

We understand the times

MyDiscover Inc. understands the times and caters to the needs of its clients.  We offer a sliding-scale fee so that all clients can afford our counseling.  Programs are offered during days, evenings, and weekend hours.

We offer an efficient, skills-enlightenment approach for anger management, domestic abuse, and addictions intervention and counseling. Managing anger constructively is a process in which the experiencer is open, honest, and direct and mobilizes the self in a prosocial direction.  Through skills acquisition, the client focuses on the specific behavior that triggered the anger.

Our Staff

Peter Stone, M.A.,CART,CPT,CAS, has a Master of Arts degree in counseling psychology.  He is an expert on cycles of anger-based aggression, entitlement-based domestic power and control, and alcohol & drug addictions.  He is rostered by the New Hampshire Department of Health and Human Services as an Alternative Provider, and nationally certified by the Academy of Health Care Providers in the Addictive Disorders of Harvard School of Medicine –Division on Addictions, National Federation of Professional Trainers, and Anger Management Training Institute where he is also a consultant on issues of domestic abuse.

Fred Bates, M.Ed., LCMHC, MLDAC, has a Master of Education degree in counseling psychology.  Fred is an expert on cycles of lost control to addictions and is licensed by the New Hampshire Department of Health and Human Services as a Master level Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselor (MLADC).  In addition, he is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor (LCMHC) specializing on issues of loss, depression, and anxiety, and member of the Massachusetts Association of Mental Health Counselor.

* Face-2-Face

We offer individual and group sessions on Anger Management, Stress Management, Alcohol and Drug Abuse, and Domestic Abuse at our Hampstead, New Hampshire office.  Confidentiality and discretion is required due to our high profile clientele.

** OnDemand

Our OnDemand sessions include live video, confidential email, telephone, and live chat.  Those who enroll in our OnDemand sessions are required to participate in our online group educational course work.